It aint all glitter bombs

Sometimes it is nasty H8 mail. I went off to work this morning with a head full of boring tech stuff, Mardi Gras emails that are piling up and the fact that my trainer seems to get more intense every single morning (and how is that even possible? I already can’t move). I was home by 6.30pm, so I hit the gym up again and then finally sat down in front of my computer.

What hit me was a series of virtiolic comments on this blog (and the Star Observer online page), that escalated throughout the day as the writer got no response for his efforts. You cannot begin to imagine how ugly this man got. We’ll call him Andrew Hynd. That’s what he calls himself. I imagine it is an assumed name, as the email he gave was certainly fake.

The commentary began with calling Whitney Houston a “tired, washed-up, drugged-out has been” and Kelly Rowland “another nobody” before moving onto to say that “most people aren’t gay and couldn’t give a shit about MG”. When, after two hours, his comment still hadn’t hit the net (keeping in mind I am at work), Andrew threw down with “comment awaiting moderation. How very Mardi Gras of you. Can’t have uncensored, honest opinions can we? Who knows what might happen. You are a fraud, Sands”.

After that the comments broke down from almost being about the issue, to personal attacks on me. Everything from my weight, mental state and even his opinion that I am too old to be excited about the official Toybox Mardi Gras After Party. He also threw in some real stunners like “fat” and “self important bitch“.

The whole thing went way beyond “having a say” to straight-up abusive bullying. And it’s a really insidious, underhand way to fight… from behind a pseudonym? This kind of incident doesn’t happen all the time. But it does happen enough in our world to make me think, “this is something I’m going to write about”. I want to address the issue front-on, instead of feeling crap about it in private. Fair discourse is something I encourage. However that shouldn’t mean that people get to do their ugliest fighting in letters to the editor, blog responses and Facebook commentary.

I honestly think more people would want to contribute to this community if they weren’t so worried about sticking their head up over the parapet and having it shot off.

Andrew Hynd, please learn to address your concerns through the appropriate channels. Bullying and H8 are things our community has always fought against.


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7 Responses to It aint all glitter bombs

  1. Damien says:

    Well said Steph!

  2. Editor SSO says:

    Cheers Steph
    After repeated attempts to contact the above-mentioned author (the email address is fake and the ISP is based out of Brisbane) we last night banned this person from the forum.
    While healthy debate is encouraged on our forum, vitriolic attacks are not.
    Happy Mardi Gras!

  3. KM says:

    Steph – Andrew may have a good point deep in his vitreol but I doubt it.

    Keep your head up. You care and you want to make a difference. The haters can go away. Stay tough and remember that the real people actually are excited and see relevance for MardiGras.

    And keep on Blogging!

  4. Lisa says:

    Time to hold up a mirror, Andrew Hynd!!!
    If you have a vision for this community and a belief for what it could be then get out there and create it. We’re all creating our own reality. If someone else’s ideas aren’t the same as yours WHO CARES???!!! It’s not all about you.

  5. Naomi says:

    Hey babes,

    Why don’t you let us all tackle this “monster” so you don’t have to.

    Gutless wanker if they can’t use thier real names and real email address.

    But you and I have been around long enough to know that these people are either sad and lonely and probaly have never given support in the community or ever given time for a charity or done something for anyone else but themsleves.

    I understand other peoples ideas and views, as you can’t please everyone, but name calling is just down right RUDE !

  6. Melanie Rumball says:

    It is extremely disappointing to once again see that there are people in this world who think it is acceptable to bully, belittle, harass and victimise others without reason.

    What is even more incredulous is that this person only feels comfortable carrying out these attacks under the cover of anonymity.

    Personal attacks on others come from people who have nothing constructive to say and those that are insecure in themselves and have intelligence in limited supply.

    Actions speak louder than words and I would much rather be surrounded by people who offer love, humour, support and acceptance to all regardless of sex, religion, ethnic background and sexual preference. Those that treat others with respect and who dedicate their lives to making a difference to the community in which they live are the people who are truly beautiful.

    Even a person who “appears” beautiful on the outside can be truly ugly and life is way too short to even provide them with an opportunity to succeed in getting us down. Ugly it appears has reared his ugly head today.

    Happy Mardi Gras.

  7. Amanda says:

    Good for you girl. Worth saying and said well xxx

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