Once again I hear of adult members in our community engaging in Bullying towards one another.
Decades and decades of community heroes’ have walked before us to enable us to live the life we currently live, to stand together to fight the remaining battles and turn our attention to those who still need our help.
We all stand together to support our younger communities who are being bullied at schools. We rush in, embrace the cause and lend our undying support, because we do know it gets better… and most of the time it does, but….
When it comes to adult bullying within our own community we are not so quick to jump in and say it’s not ok.
Why is this?
Why are we scared to point out the flaws in our own communities? Are we scared that we we will not be included in the “in crowd” we socialise with on the weekend? Are we still acting out our schoolyard scenarios but in a more sophisticated and adult fashion?
Why is it OK to bully one another as adults? And more so, why is it ok to see it happening and not call the bully out on their behaviour.
The Canada Safety Council defines adult bullying as:
“a grab for control by an insecure, inadequate person, an exercise of power through the humiliation of the target.” It involves humiliation or abusive words that lower a person’s self-esteem. It can take the form of rude, degrading or offensive remarks; intimidating gestures; or discrediting a person by spreading rumours, ridiculing them or calling into question their convictions and private life.”
Sound familiar, or do you call this gossip or politics or scandal? Or is it ok to make fun of someone who is fat or skinny, or doesn’t wear the right clothes or isn’t as socially outgoing as you? Or do you call this just the natural pecking order?
It’s really a sad day when I keep hearing about this and have to write a blog like this.
As a community please stand up and start calling this behaviour when you see it. It’s not acceptable, and it’s not cool.
You are responsible for the way you choose to treat others, and no-one else. Watching bullying and not doing anything about it is just as bad as doing the bullying in my opinion.
If you are being bullied as an adult talk to someone about it and then call the behavior. It’s the only way this is going to stop.